Episode No. 155 The Joy Of Saying No with Natalie Lue
“When we cut back on people pleasing it’s about us cutting back on misappropriating our good qualities. We can be kind and loving and generous and thoughtful and courteous without harming ourselves and without lying.”
-Natalie Lue
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This is a safe space, I promise. Raise your hand if:
You have a habit of constantly putting other folks' needs ahead of your own
People ask you for favors because they KNOW you'll always say yes
The thought of being honest and saying NO makes you sick to your stomach because you don't want to come across as "mean", so you just go along with the flow
You're chronically exhausted from doing hella mental gymnastics in hopes of anticipating the needs and wants of other people
You secretly want to hideout so people stop asking you for help or favors
If you raised your hand to any combination of these questions, you, my friend, might be a people pleaser. What's that? Well according to Natalie Lue, author of The Joy of Saying No, a people pleaser is someone that “suppresses and represses who they are to please others." Ouch right?
If that sounds familiar, don't worry you are not alone. In fact, I am a recovering people pleaser and I learned a lot about why we do it, and how to stop from today's guest, relationship expert-- Natalie Lue.
In today's episode, she's getting down to the core of why we people please, how to recognize if you're doing it, how to stop, why no's aren't a bad thing, and how to create and honor boundaries. If you're ready to take back your power and show up as your full self without the people pleasing then today's episode is for you!
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