Episode No. 89 Am I Doing Enough?
“Baby girl the reason why you feel so defeated is because you’ve been running a race against other people. You’ve been letting other people be the standard. You don’t have to live like that. You are your own standard and you get to decide what doing “enough” means for you in your life.”
-Excerpt from today’s episode
“Am I doing enough?”
“Why aren’t I further along?”
“Shouldn't I have accomplished more by now?”
“It's no big deal I only got 4 sales.”
Enough. More. Only. Further along. These are the words and phrases that get us #GoalGetters into a lot of trouble. It just happened to me last week. I was gearing up to celebrate No Real Jewelry's fifth anniversary when my inner critic came in like a damn wrecking ball and had me questioning EVERYTHING. (NRJ is my lifestyle blog btw, if you’re new here.)
Homegirl had me sitting there wondering whether or not I had done enough in my business and life these past 5 years. Mind you, I pretty much accomplished everything that I had set out to achieve, and more but my inner critic just wouldn't let up.
She had me comparing myself to the bloggers + girl bosses that rake in millions of dollars, get millions of views, and have a million followers. I knew it was completely unfair of me to compare my journey to theirs but I did and I went down the whole-- I haven't done enough spiral.
After sulking and feeling sorry for myself for a couple of hours I had an aha moment. What does "enough" or "more" really mean for me? If I stop looking at what everybody else is doing haven't I done enough for me?
And so I started to think back and I realized that in five years I made my wildest dreams come true which means I've done more than enough!
And that my dear is when my pity party turned back into a celebration. You see when I stopped looking at other people's journeys as the standard or enough measuring stick, I realized that I am exactly where I need to be. If your inner critic has been throwing around the— enoughs, onlys and futher alongs— your way then today's episode is for you!
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